Metoya: Not really. Once I got initial letter that said that they were going to investigate my behavior I just knew right then. I still believe that my behavior did not warrant me to be expelled from Delta Sigma Theta. I feel like I represented myself and my organization well.
theJasmineBRAND.com: Do you feel like anyone else on the show may have had behavior a little more questionable?
Metoya: I only speak for myself. I don’t have an opinion on what anybody else did on the show.
theJasmineBRAND.com: Do you have any plans to try and fight their decision?
Metoya: To be honest with you, no. That’s because I tend to look at things a lot differently. God knew this would happen before it did and I know that everything happens for a reason. He had this happen for a reason. What that is I don’t know, but I always trust in him. I know I’ve been blessed because of that. I still look at this as a opportunity. It was a blessing to open up eyes and doors to many other things.
theJasmineBRAND.com: Do you still consider yourself as a Delta?
Metoya: I feel like I will always have that part of me. You can’t take any of that away. You can’t take away my process. You can’t take away the things that I’ve learned. I feel that will always be a part of me. But I’m always going to be Metoya first.
theJasmineBRAND.com: What’s your relationship now with your line sisters since they learned you were expelled?
Metoya: It has been absolutely horrific. My line sisters — I have a few that reached out. The other ones remained silent and to me silence is still a answer. The sad part is when the show came out, we [the chapter] had a ‘Group Me’. They were talking about me in the group me. I don’t think they realized I was included in the group me. I didn’t speak up because you want to see how people really feel. The sad part is once they knew I was included and I was expelled, they removed me but the conversation kept going.
theJasmineBRAND.com: What is the biggest misconception you think people have about you from seeing you on the show?
Metoya: I guess that I did it for the money or that I needed Delta to be who I am. I didn’t do it for fame and I darn sure didn’t do it for money. I’m not trying to brag but I’m a project manager in the critical field. You can look that up and see how much money I make. I really did it for inspiration.
theJasmineBRAND.com: Has the show or the Delta’s affected your daughter at all?
Metoya: No, she’s very far removed from that and I do that on purpose. Her dad and I keep it away from her on purpose. She doesn’t need to know about it.
theJasmineBRAND.com: Has the relationship status between you and your child’s father?
Metoya: No, it’s still the same. Nick and I will always, always, always be the best of friends. I think we both have realized too that the way we have it now is the best it’s going to get. We’re in a good space. He’s moved on and I’m still waiting for someone to come along and scoop me up.
theJasmineBRAND.com: Since the show is over now how do you plan to take advantage of the platform?
Metoya: Honestly, just keep my name out there and try to do whatever I can. I was telling you before about my inbox and people asking me to come out to events. I’m going to go and show support. People have asked me for relationship advice. I love to mentor. I love to mentor young girls.
theJasmineBRAND.com: What is your biggest fear?
Metoya: I have a weird biggest fear. My biggest fear and I know it’s probably sad, is to lose my mom. I know that’s weird. I can never fathom and I get emotional even when I think about it now. She’s like my backbone. I love her to death. I really don’t know how I’m going to function in life God see fit for her to leave before I do.
theJasmineBRAND.com: When is the last time you got into a physical fight?
Metoya: Probably when I was in like elementary school. You might as well say grade school because I’m a lover not a fighter.
theJasmineBRAND.com: What lesson in life took you the longest to learn?
Metoya: How to love myself. I’ve been in some really horrible relationships. Not like physical abuse but horrible to me because I always get heartbroken. I give so much that I feel taken advantage of. Being in a relationship, I realized that I have to love me not to beg a dude to be with me. I deserve better than that and I shouldn’t have to beg anybody to be with me.
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