I Aint Sayin You A Golddigger…

When’s the last time your boo dropped a Louis V purse in your lap? According to many women, it should have been some time recent. The Amber Rose break-up with Kanye West and get-together with Wiz Khalifa has sparked a common question amongst women: what should we be looking for in a man? Many considered her switch in partners a downgrade since Wiz has less money. So is a loaded bank account what’s most important in our search for a partner? To Amber it isn’t. And she’s right. Certain things are mandatory when it comes to relationships.

Overall good treatment is of the utmost importance. If he can’t take the time to listen to your never-ending stories about the drama between you and your co-workers; if he can’t take into consideration the fact that you may need some extra attention after a long day at work; if he can’t show you just as much love outside at the movie theater as he can inside on top of his bed, then You Just Should Not Date Him. But most other things in a partnership are negotiable, which is why it’s so hard to pinpoint an example of one perfect man. Every woman is different and each of us needs a different type of man to complement our lives.

When it comes to personality, requirements vary. Are you that independent sister who’s looking for a man who can give her space or are you that clingy sweetheart who needs her man around 24-7? Are you that laid-back shorty who needs a man who likes to stay at home most often or are you that party diva who likes a man that can show her things she’s never tried before? These are the questions that will help us decide which personality is right for each of us. And then there’s that big issue of money. Some golddiggers make it seem like a man without big stacks is always unacceptable but that theory isn’t true at all. You may be the Old Amber Rose Type who’s into five-star meals, top designer clothing and houses too big to remember where all the bathrooms are. If that’s the lifestyle you’re really about then yes, you need a baller. But you may be the New Amber Rose Type who would rather settle for simplicity, comfort and traditional values rather than the complications of glitz and glam. So think about it ladies.

Would you prefer that Louis V on your lap or a breakfast-in-bed with a complimentary massage from your man? Think about what you envision for your love life and then choose what the definition of a perfect man is for you. Me, I’d prefer my Louis Bag, thanks, but don’t let your friends tell you you’re wrong for dating that garbage man if he runs your bath water every night and greases your scalp before you go to bed!

Signed,

Kamaria