A Few Reasons Why You May Have Married the Wrong Guy

I love, love, love to hear stories about love and marriage. I, like most of my female readers, am very opinionated when it comes to this very topic. And if there is one thing I am not, it’s a relationship expert; strictly trial and error over here! However,  Marie Claire did this awesome article on marriage called, “Did You Marry the Wrong Guy?” that kinda hones in on why some women rush to get down the aisle. The timing on this is perfect because a dude (yeah, I say ‘dude’)  and I were discussing this very topic recently. One of my favorite parts of the article says:

“For starters, blame Cinderella. ‘Women are raised with an unrealistic impression of what love is supposed to look like,’ says Gauvain. ‘Girls read fairy tales where the woman gets saved by the prince, and when they’re older, the same message is enforced through romantic comedies where love always prevails, despite impossible scenarios. So women learn that love can always work, even when it’s unhealthy.'”

You should certainly check out the full article, but here are my very limited reasons why I think women marry the wrong guys.

1. All the cool kids are doing it. And by cool kids, I mean your peers. Whether it’s that all of the girls in your circle got married or the assumption that after 30 you need to have a seat, the pressure of folks around you jumping the broom may inadvertently make you feel the sudden rush or need to do the same.

2. You got knocked up. We all, or at least most, have sex. Sometimes we have unprotected sex. And sometimes we get knocked-up. I’ve discussed this with my close girlfriends on a number of occasions and while people have differing opinions, a lot of folks don’t want to be a single, unmarried mother. They’ll get pregnant and kinda strong-hold a dude into the idea of marriage. And maybe it’s not ‘strong-hold’, but once a baby is invited into the equation, a woman often times feels the need to skip to the altar.

3. Ovary check…tick-tock. There seems to be no perfect age to conceive, but according to physicians (and my gynecologist), women need to be concerned in their upper 30’s. And even with that said, it depends on your health and lifestyle. Anywho, some women may feel the need to rush into marriage to fulfill their ovary destiny.

4. He looks like the perfect guy. Nice car, good government job, no felonies. A guy may have all of the perfect characteristics and fulfill all the areas on your checklist thus he looks like the perfect guy. But sometimes, those surface characteristics aren’t enough to make a life-time commitment work.

5. “You didn’t know he was CRAZY, DERANGED?” Word to Martin Lawrence. Sometimes, we ignore the obvious signs. While dating, y’all are probably in fairy-tale, la la land…three years later you realize he sleeps with a teddy bear. Or an eye mask….or night-gown. Get what I mean?