Dating Coach Anwar White Says Darker-Skinned Black Women Have Lower Marriage Rates Than Light-Skinned & Biracial Women, Explains How Hair Texture Plays A Role

Jasmine Brand, Anwar White

Dating Coach Anwar White Says Darker-Skinned Black Women Have Lower Marriage Rates Than Light-Skinned & Biracial Women, Explains How Hair Texture Plays A Role

Dating and relationship coach Anwar White is speaking out about the challenges he believes darker-skinned Black women face in dating, claiming that colorism, hair texture, and beauty standards contribute to disparities in marriage rates.

During a conversation with theJasmineBrand founder Jasmine Brand, White discussed what he described as significant differences in marriage rates among Black women based on skin tone.

“Love is something that I think so many Black women struggle with. Not all of us, but some of us struggle with. No, no, I would say most of us do.”

He continued,

“When you look at the marriage rate for Black women, it is half of the marriage rate of any other racial group. So I think it’s really important to understand that.”

White then made a distinction between lighter-skinned and darker-skinned Black women.

“And a lot of things that I’m going to say, something that I don’t say a lot, but I think it’s really important to say. When you break out, like, the different Black women that are getting married, lighter skin or biracial women have the same marriage rate as white women.”

He added,

“It is the… chocolate and darker skinned women that actually have the lowest rates of marriage.”

White emphasized that his comments were based on his interpretation of statistical data.

“So just going into the data, because I studied statistics and I look at the data when I’m talking about stuff, even if it sounds crazy.”

He explained,

“And I think it’s an important, like, statistic to really consider and to think about because there’s colorism and texturism and dating racism that I talk about in the book and how to kind of overcome that through dating strategies.”

When Jasmine asked whether he was suggesting that biracial and lighter-skinned Black women have an easier time dating than brown-skinned women because of colorism, White agreed.

“Correct. And texturism. Like their marriage rates are at the 40 to 50 percentile rate, which is closer to the white Asian women that are out there and higher than the Hispanic women.”

The conversation then shifted to hair texture and how hairstyles may influence dating preferences.

White claimed that some Black men’s stated preferences for natural hair don’t necessarily reflect what they find attractive.

“But yes, I talk about hairstyles a lot because hair is really important in the Black community. And you’ll hear a lot of Black men say, oh, I want my woman to have natural hair.”

He continued,

“No, they don’t. They want bust down weaves. They want long, long weaves.”

According to White, his experience as a dating coach has led him to recognize patterns involving women’s physical appearance and potential romantic partners.

“When I’ve been doing this work for a very long time and I can generally see a woman and say, oh, I know who you’re going to be with, right?”

He elaborated,

“And so like, depending on the color, depending on the length, depending on the texture, right? There are all these things that I think are generally, to speak about generalizations, true.”

However, White acknowledged that his observations don’t apply to everyone.

“Now, obviously there are anomalies and things of that nature, but ultimately there is an aesthetic.”

While White maintains that colorism and texturism play a role in dating and marriage outcomes, the specific marriage-rate statistics he referenced during the interview have not been independently verified.

His comments highlight an ongoing conversation about colorism, beauty standards, and the challenges some Black women experience while navigating relationships.

What are your thoughts on Anwar White’s comments? Do you believe skin tone and hair texture influence Black women’s dating experiences?