Look, I do this for a living, but to be honest, after news hit that Kim Kardashian and Kanye West were expecting their first child, I was surprised that the slander reached such prolific levels, so quickly. On twitter, Facebook and via text messages (with my own girlfriends, yeah we talk politics and gossip @ 1 a.m. EST), I witnessed a ton of name calling, twitter mud swinging and utter disgust at the fact that Kim Kardashian was expecting. And while, I certainly don’t insert my opinion (although I did last month, with Rita Ora vs Rob Kardashian) on a regular basis here, I figured that you’d allow me to, the last day of the year. So, ladies, before you go pointing your finger, here are FIVE reasons why it’s highly likely that you’re like Kim Kardashian.
- Often times, I hear folk taunt Kim with the fact that she’s slept with so many men. To date, we probably know about ten men that she’s slept with (let’s assume, there are more). Chances are, if you’re in your upper 20′s to early 30′s, you’ve been intimate with ten men. And if you haven’t, your best girlfriend probably has. What makes her count look and sound so whore-ish? It’s up for public consumption. If we took a look @ the men you’ve laid down with, we may be throwing rocks at you too, boo (*cough* and even me, luckily I’m a virgin!)
- Kim had a famous sex tape w/ Ray-J, which kicked off her career (which really isn’t my point here). My point is, if you’ve been in an exclusive relationship w/ a man, its HIGHLY likely you’ve either sent him nude photos, skyped some sex kitten surprises or (gasp), recorded your very own sexcapade via camera or video phone (sings Beyonce song). The lesson here is, don’t hit record.
- Kim’s marriage to NBA baller Kris Humphries lasted 60 seconds, give or take. But, have you ever known someone that married the wrong person? In fact, they knew it before they walked down the aisle, but decided to just go thru w/ it bc they didn’t want to embarrass themselves or their families? Okay, maybe no. But haven’t you ever settled for someone bc it looked and sounded like the right guy? Perhaps it looked good on paper. What I’m saying is, some of you married the wrong man or would have had he actually asked you.
- Kim’s love-dovey tweets w/ Kanye can be sorta-kinda annoying. Partially, because some of us feel she does it for self promotion. Nonethess, all of my friends (and even you) are annoying when you’re in love with a man, and you express that love on social media. Hell, if you’ve ever shared Instagram pics of the flowers he sent, snapped him in bed (while he’s sleeping) or even tweeted him (while he’s literally across the dinner table from you) you too are guilty. All sorts of celebs use twitter to validate their relationships…and Kim’s no different (and you ain’t either).
- Love. Don’t we all want ‘it’? At the beginning or end of the day, who I’m in love with and under what circumstances (even if I’m legally married to another man) may look insane to you. Perhaps you could never fathom falling in love w an
assholelike Ye…but if you’ve loved before, chances are you’ve had anassholeor two. And if yourassholehad the chance to make dope music, interrupt Taylor Swift and pull George Bush’s card (hell, he allegedly doesn’t like black people anyway), you’d surely get knocked-up and be just in love too.
Long story short, be judgemental, but pull out a mirror please, first 
With all kinds of, I-normally-don’t-give-my-two-cents but-its-NYE-love,
jb.
P.S. Please feel free to chime in on why my two cents are totally ridiculous or if you sorta-kinda agree. i love you virtually, regardless
I just love when you do this…..extremely reare….but only when absolutely necessary. Ive said b4…not a fan of Kim but luv me some Ye….The KimeYe thing grew on me once it started to look genuine. That said. Congrats and Good Luck to them both.
I agree with all of these points. Ive never been a Kim hater…. and i actually love Kimye together. They’re cute… a match made in heaven, if u will.
So tired of folks being judgmental – folks really need to get over themselves. Happy for the expectant bundle. If I were Kimye I might have waited even longer to announce it, but i guess it was just too exciting to contain.
It amazes me how black women will defend Kim Kardashian to no end but can always feel justified when going in on a Rihanna or Beyonce. If you put your shit out there you will be judged the end. Congrats on the baby Mrs. Humphries
i defend Beyonce and Rihanna, as well. i am guilty of ‘going in’ on men though
I agreed with your Rob Kardashian post but this is just trash. Folks kill me always holler don’t judge me when they put their bullshit on front street. If you don’t want to be judged then don’t put it out there. I hold NONE of those qualities you put out there and I will call Kim out for the slore than she is. Why is it so wrong to call a spade a spade. Kim is pregnant by one man and married to anohter. That is heaux behavior 101 the end. It just makes me ill to see black women bloggers defend her so hard but don’t do the same for black women. A baby is innocent and I would never trash anhyone’s chld but the kids parents are Trash. Her and YE
I don’t get it. So everyday people can fuck all they want to and it’s cool, but because someone is famous then they’re a slore??? And what makes Kanye “trash”? Because he speaks his mind? I guess you prefer the dudes that constantly lie to you huh? It’s better to date someone and break up when you realize they’re not for you v/s dating the wrong person and staying with them. Don’t know what your angry beef is with “black bloggers”, but I’ve never seen any “black woman bashing” on this site. #StopBeingAngry #ItAintYourLife
I agree. I’ve been saying this to all my friends. She ain’t no different from any chick out here she’s just in the public eye. I’m happy for them both. they seem to have found what they’ve been looking for. Kim has always been a hopeless romantic that has been her only downfall…Congrats Jasmine on your Mag. LOve IT!
I think that this is a great way to start out the new year for Kim and Kanye… I think everyone needs to mind their own business and quit being jealous because if it was them, they would do the same thing… We don’t know why the marriage has not finalized but no one is upset at that fact that Kris’s girlfriend is pregnant as well.. So don’t point the finger just because you wish you could live the life Kim lives… I feel that anyone who is not happy for someone else’s happiness is unhappy with themselves… Like you said JB, get a mirror and think twice before you believe yourself to be a GOD… #THATISALL JAE~BARBIE
I do not owe Kanye and Kim my congratulatons. I feel anyone that feels you owe two people you don’t know happieness is clearly lost in this world.
I LOVE KIM AND KANYE , AND WISH THEM THE BEST ….
Good for them on their upcoming bambino! However, I wish the breaking announcement would have been from Khole and Lamar instead!
I don’t agree with you on this one Jasmine. I am nothing like her and the five points you used don’t apply for me. This is just another way for people to excuse her actions. She and her family are media whores with no real talent! The sex tape jumped started her career and she wants people to look past it. Sorry, I can’t. Before she was nothing in the public eye. Know she’s started businesses with money her dad left them. I have no respect for her or for Kanye. People would do anything to have a buzz even if that means bringing in a new life into this world. Sad day. The moment people stop believing the hype she and her family will try something to gain attention again.
I agree with you anala – I just made the same point about this article. I can honestly say these points do not fit me as well. I’ve always been cautious and my body is my temple – I feel as a society we make too many excuses for public figures or people in the spotlight. although other chicks may sleep around or do whatever but they are not on tv doing it. Not saying kim k is a role model or has to be.. but be about something. If I ever get in the position that position, I want to represent positivity.. not the issh she is representing. so people can do articles about these women and always give them a pass.. but I’m not.
point taken.
A person can only be a “media whore” if they’re not getting media attention. Hmmm… let’s see. I wonder does Kim take the time to beat down the door of thousands of blogs and tell them to run photos and stories about her or if it’s the other way around?? I wonder if she begs the tv network to air her show every season or if it’s the other way around?
As far as people doing “anything to have a buzz”… You might be right because the 35 sold out US concerts grossing $1.5 mil PER NIGHT is truly a relatively small number… and his GOOD Music Album did 200,000 sales in the first week… So yeah… that guy REALLY needs some buzz!!
I agree with Anala. To this day i think she leaked her own tape. All the Kardashians do is seek attention and their mother taught them to be that way. I don’t see myself in Kim even a little bit. Can’t do it.
Yeah she leaked her own tape. Ray J and Brandi have both eluded to it in interviews.
whether you agree or disagree, thank you’ll for letting me share my perspective
i appreciate your responses.
1. ” Chances are, if you’re in your upper 20?s to early 30?s, you’ve been intimate with ten men. And if you haven’t, your best girlfriend probably has.” FACT FOR MANY
2. ” y point is, if you’ve been in an exclusive relationship w/ a man, its HIGHLY likely you’ve either sent him nude photos, skyped some sex kitten surprises”FACT FOR MANY
3. “ But haven’t you ever settled for someone bc it looked and sounded like the right guy? Perhaps it looked good on paper. What I’m saying is, some of you married the wrong man or would have had he actually asked you.” FACT FOR MANY
4. ” Nonethess, all of my friends (and even you) are annoying when you’re in love with a man, and you express that love on social media.” FACT FOR MANYMANY100
5. ” Perhaps you could never fathom falling in love w an asshole like Ye…but if you’ve loved before, chances are you’ve had an asshole or two.” FACT FOR MANY
Bottom line Jasmine is correct…it may not apply to u but to some u know or know of…dont all in yall feeling and being so defensive!
YES!!! You hit the nail on the head. Live and let live. Folks are so busy judging this woman who they don’t know as if they’re own closets are free of skeletons.
Jas u are my hero. U are all I am and wish I could yell. A try person. She right Dat it.
Did you defend Fantasia like this?
No.
Isn’t Fantasia’s situation the same, just reversed roles?…Antwone lied about being married (which he is known in Charlotte to habitually do). She had a child with him. If your points don’t apply to her it seems hypocritical. I respect the points you made, just have a problem if they only apply to Kardashians of the world
Referring to points 3 and 5 for Fantasia…on a different not Kim comes off as disingenuous and all about publicity. That’s why I believe people have a hard time tolerating her. So, yes what you says seems to ring true, just not for her. Beautiful woman just comes off annoying, superficial, and media hungry
“No.” LMAO! So you. -ad00fa28
Kudos Jasmine…point taken!!! Like you said it may not affect myself but I know many women who can relate. I am never the one to judge. The mere fact that two people can come together and showcase pure love is a great way to start 2013.
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So many black women defend K. Kardashian but I bet that she could really care less about whether black women like her or not…as long as black men continue to worship her.
You can be involved with a black man because it benefits you and not really care for black women. Happens all the time these days and dont say she has black girlfriends. She has famous, rich, black girlfriends that she seems to tolerate not really like.
Thank you Tara! You spoke the truth!
My silent comment to the world: I’m all five of those points and still don’t like Kim. Dropping the mic.#JudgeAccordingly
Thank youuuuuuuuu
While, I’m guilty of being extremely annoyed by Kim Kardashian, I agree with your post whole-heartedly! I don’t think Jas means that we ALL have done EVERYTHING Kim’s done (and to read it that way is silly), I think what she means is we ALL have skeletons in our closet. We all know someone who’s done or have done our selves something the masses wouldn’t agree with. So, why spend our energy bashing another woman? It’s silly. Cut it out. Fry a bigger fish. Love yourself and teach those around you to do the same. Forget what the next celebrity is doing and count your own skeletons.
while I am not a fan of Kim K, I agree 110 percent with this post. I am actually happy with the news of their baby and like I tweeted, I hope it brings them both balance and stability. But this is a great post and a great site!
Thank you “anonymous” for highlighting above that Fantasia was not defended in this blog with such instensity…. rather, she wasn’t defended AT ALL. Wow. Can’t say I’m surprised by this blog bc I’ve said all year how there is an apparent favor for Kim K. and Cassie on here. Jasmine, you don’t have to say in your blog “I love these women” for us to know by your consistent, and over-reporting of their every little move. Kim K can go to Starbucks and you’ll post that on your blog. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love reading your stuff and check in pretty frequently, but this post here is a bit over the top. Like many other women have stated we Do Not share those same qualities as Kim K. and she deserves every piece of mud slung her way, why? Because her career is made from being a public figure. It’s what she does for a living. She was made in front of the camera, works in front of the camera and continues to put her life out there to be watched, scurtinized, and taunted. It’s apart of her job duties and responsibilities. Point is- she is a married woman, now knocked up by mistress. In some states what she has done is a crime. So instead of trying to minimize it with the old “she’s just like you” theory, let her handle the heat since she has chosen to live in the kitchen.
(side note- you kind of put your own business out there with assuming women in their 20′s and 30′s have slept with over 10 men…dang….please don’t believe the hype, I’m willing to bet more women out there have more standards than you think).
Still love your blog, and will still log on to read, but I completely disagree with you on this one.
i missed you and woulda been HELLA offended had you not chimed in. matter of fact, I was just saying, “one of my readers HATES when I post about Kim K…I wonder where she is?” And to your side note, I’m an open book & am okay w/ whatever conclusion folk have by my statement. thank you for still loving my blog, but hating my thoughts on this post or Kim in general. I do appreciate it. -jb
I’m glad I didn’t disappoint. Happy NY.
I AGREE WITH #5, but THAT IS IT.
#1. She slept with a string of successful black men. Infer what you may.
#2. Some people grew up in an era when you had to be marginally talented to become famous.
#3. Correction It was a 10 million dollar wedding that lasted 30 seconds.
#4. I don’t really fux with Twitter like that, so I don’t know.
People have solid reasons for hating [on] Kimmie Kakes.
Fact of the matter is… ANY woman that READS (not hurry up and skim over so you can type your angry rebuttle) the 5 reasons and says that NONE of them apply… you’re either a bold faced liar, in prison, or hate men. Let’s be real people!
Boooom x2
these points are hurting. saying if ur age 20-30 u or ur friend prolly slept with about 10 men, u and kim are both whores.
you’re right, alex. i’m a wh*re, as our my friends, kim kardashian and half the men and women who read this site. please pray for us.
like others have already mentioned – it’s not the fact that she’s slept around but that she prostitutes herself for publicity & fame. she is no better than paris hilton, really. I would never call kim kardashian a whore but she’s not someone I would consider to be a classy lady & definitely not a role model for young women to idolize, which unfortunately a lot do. & don’t forget – that wasn’t her FIRST marriage! she was married when she was very young & got divorced than as a PR stunt married Kris Humphries so they BOTH would profit from the union. how exactly is that marrying the wrong person or an honest mistake? she was manipulative, greedy & conniving. & @roberto raymon – kim kardashian might not be running after blogs, & tv producers, to share her life story ALL the time but her MOTHER sure does & she’s the worst of them all.