[Video] Two Men of Kappa Alpha Psi Get Married, So What’s the Big Deal?
Late last night, this video hit our INBOX. It's video footage of a gorgeous (outdoor) same-sex wedding of two black men in Kentucky. So what's the big deal? The two one of the men are members of the African American fraternity, Kappa Alpha Psi.
The two grooms names are Robert and Nathan and some folk seem to be up in arms about their association with the fraternity. Check out the clip and chime in on your thoughts of their same sex-marriage being associated with Kappa.
[youtube width=”590″ height=”415″]http://youtu.be/V92tbalSTm0[/youtube]
EDITORIAL NOTE: We stand corrected. One of the commenters says that he is one of the male grooms on the weding video and further clarifies that only one of them is a Kappa. We apologize for the oversite.
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straight tragedy (no pun intended)
Interesting enough.. I'm Nate in the video. I'm the only Kappa. My husband is NOT A KAPPA. There are not pictures of him throwing up the YO because he is NOT GREEK..
Congrats! I think you’re brave because you are doing a major thing here. I wish you luck; it warms my heart to see this. Ridicule is underway but you have audacity and you over looked the possibilities of persecution for love. That’s love at its finest. The type we only imagine or see on tv. Its real and you will be an inspiration for other gays, blacks in Greeks, and people in general who are afraid to be themselves.
What a beautiful ceremony!
Nate I just wanted to say congratulations!!! Your wedding was beautiful!!!! I cried and I don't even know you guys! Lol amazing video and beautiful couple! I wish you guys the best and many many years! I look forward to having an awesome union like yours one day! (:
Kongrats Nupe, beautiful ceremony (don’t think I’ll show my wife…she’ll be jealous, lol)!!!
Congratulations Frat! Very nice wedding and I'm happy you! You are showing who you are! It takes a real man to be true to himself! I think my wife will be jealous also… Your wedding planner did an awesome job! Take care and enjoy marriage!
Congrats!! ur wedding was absolutely beautiful. I hope I get to attend something like this for my friends that are gay. You and ur husband look so happy together. Don't pay attention to the negativity that u will receieve Ur relationship is between u, ur husband, and God others opinions are jus that opinions. Congratulations and I wish the both of u much happiness in your new future together!!
I personally thought it was a beautiful celebration. Love has no color, age, race or gender. There is only one creator and one judge that really counts. Only he can judge and send down the final ruling. Marriage is a beautiful thing, so as long as the both of you are happy that's all that matters. Just because you are apart of a organization doesn't mean that it makes you who you are. Its alot of men and women that don't stay true to theirselves due to the backlash of society. I wish you both nothing but happiness for a lifetime.
“Love has no color, age, race , or gender?” Really? Sure it does, persons are not free to marry five year old chidren because its morally wrong and as a result – against the law. Who are we to define what love is when it comes from the heart – says the person who likes very young children and may also one day wish that society just quit tripping and recognize the beauty of the heart even if it offends others morality. ” There is only one creator and one judge that really counts?” For heaven sakes please stop using God to then justify homosexuality. If your premise is that all people should be able to do what they please – thats fine – but stop trying to use God to then justify it. When did homosexuality become a virtue? Stop bringing God into it.
I love yall and i wish yall the best of luck! Keep your head up & always remember to stay happy! Good Luck! And i really look forward to hearing from you soon!
OMG bruh that was beautiful. Don't ever care what anyone says, that was so INSPIRING. Im gay and I'm an Alpha and i plan on marrying an Alpha! (my current boyfriend is an Alpha) your video was awesome to say the least and i pray for you and your husbands LASTING love and happiness! I dream of my day; that was EPIC!
What chapter is your gay ass in?
Brooks you are a real jerk and if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. I know your mother taught you that. As for the happy couple. Many blessing to you both and line love n prosperity to you both. Congrats!
What chapter is your hating ass in? When you take an oath to a brotherhood, you commit to love you brother through it all. You are publicly showing your ass on behalf of yourself…because I would never think your fraternity was as fragile minded as yourself. #NowTakeSeveralSeats
This is a shame and will never be accepted with God. Another attack on the black family. Love yall as humans but abhor the homosexuality. We are truly living in the last days.
This behavior is unacceptable to the frat and God….anal sex is an abomination you were never made right….you bring shame to the frat….yourself and greeks!
Judge and you will be judged!
Yhea he can rep the ass kicking he gone get if he caught in kappa gear
You don't know what that scripture mean, now do you. The Word of God judges and no one has to; just read the Word.
Read 1Corinthians 6:9
but didn't the Greeks and Romans traditionally practice same sex relations?? I recall them being pretty big on butt sex…all sex really…
Please take your judgemental behind somewhere and sit down!! You are equal to the KKK during the civil rights movement. See your way to the judgement stand…God is waiting on you and you alone….you just make sure you are ready!
Congrats!! That was beauutiful!!! Love is Love so hears to a lifetime of love and memories!!!
I’m So Happy for the both of you.
I hope and Pray that I find the love that you share for each other. You both have been blessed. And I pray that y’all Blessings last forever.
THAT WAS A VERY NICE WEDDING LIVE YOUR LIVES AND LOVE ONE ANOTHER CONGRADULATIONS
BEAUTIFULLLLLLLLL
No need to explain anything to anyone, what’s Important is that you both Love & Respect one another.. The End..
Your wedding was ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL ….THE BOTH OF YOU ARE VERY HANDSOME …..AND CONGRATS !!!!!!
You are sick and need counseling. Having b*tt sex is not only nasty but it increases your (his) chances of getting an infection. Po*p comes out of where u stick your peen into. Do people really not see the issue behind that?
i’m old skool, ain’t no way that this nothing other than the frat being infiltrated by forces that want to destroy the manly image of the mf NUPES, back in the day this would have never happen, because everyone new that the nupes donot play that, back in the day 10 would start on line and by the end of pledge period their would be 4 remaining, thats how you get quality from quanity. yo phi we love the sistas for real, Nina’s spirit can’t be with this type of behavior, this is the kind of stuff that destroys family tradition, now my son which is a freshman in college has second thoughts about keeping up the family tradition because our family is not only strong academically,but also atheletically and who in their right mind would want to get on line with fenimine “so called” big brothers pledging the scrollers? If my son still wants to continue the family tradition, what assurances do i have that some perverted gay big brother willnot try to take advantage of my son’s dedication to keeping his family tradition alive?its a damn shame
Really The only tragedy is that people like you have the mindset that same-sex marriage is a tragedy. LOVE is LOVE regardless…Congrats to you Nathaneal and Robert.
Ditto!
This goes to show we are in our last days, as the Bible states that more and more people will accept homosexual behavior as normal and embrace it, and knowledge will increase(many of our people are finding out who we REALLY are)…while those like you and me will be considered closed minded and hateful etc, it’s amazing that the most high has not burned up the U.S yet with all of this wickedness not just having to do with homosexuals with all the hate period, you hate the sin not the person however and you should repent and turn away from the sin, I love the most high and Christ to know that in order for me to see the kingdom I must not follow the ways of the world, you either drink from the cup of Christ or satan and deal with the reward whether good or bad, do not say God knows your heart as I have heard people say because yes he knows your heart and if your sinning it’s corrupt, you all are spiritually blind and I really hope you all see the light, black people have gone off track repent and get to your purpose, anyone that’s a descendant of the “black”slaves need to read Leviticus 26 and Deuteronomy 28, not bashing just telling what the most high says.
Well , thanks your just speaking the truth about the matter
Well, your comments come across that way because it seems like you are comparing your holiness and sactification against the next person. Just remember, Luke 3:16 "Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven" Thank God, we must seek him for ourselves and bejudged by God and not man. Just continue to love and be the best you know to be. No need to condemn just ONE sin because according to the Bible they are all equal. Before you point that finger, there are three pointing back at you. Take care.
Amen
Speak the truth! Hate the Sin and not the Sinner. For us to judge brings condemnation on ourselves, but we get so comfortable with sin that it begins to change shape into acceptable behavior!! This iwedding isn't right not; because of how these men relate to one another or interact. Its not right because God reserves marriage for a man and a woman.
All the things you have said are great and wonderful! Now I want you to publish the group of scriptures that conflict with the way you live your life, and give some insight on what kind of sinner you are. And while you're sitting there thinking "Oh no he didn't", please know that I know the bible as well, or even better than you do. So please come correct if you are going to make a reply. Thank you!
Satan knows the Bible! People kill me trying to make wrong right by saying your judging! Killing is wrong to let's not judge the murders either !
Congratulations Nathan and Robert! Your wedding was simply BEAUTIFUL! Big ups to you for sharing! Love is blind so to Kalaya and all you sour puss miserable people please go sit down somewhere! You Christians need to stop thinking your beliefs are one size fit all! Your the first people to throw stones. I've heard you all say "the end is coming" for many years! Well you go wait for the end while the rest of world lives and loves! Most people live very happy lives without your negative remarks. Maybe you need to found love like Nathan and Robert then you wouldn't consume yourself with other folks salvation.
How can people look at this and say this is right ….yes it was a beautiful wedding no doubt but .. there is no way these gentlemen can reproduce in holy union… Its medically , physically impossible … Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve we need to wake up and see that there is nothing right about this ….if I need money do i have the right to rob a bank ….
NO you dont have the right to rob a bank….but you do have the right to borrow the money from a bank….and even though these men can not reproduce….The can adopt and have a beautiful family….they can have someone carry for them…….but they can raise a child….Congrats on your Marriage…….May you have a great life and raise a beautiful child someday…..GOD BLESSSSS…..
People are shocked that Kappas are gay? Most of my gay male friends used to date Kappa's but they refused to come out of the closet. This is nothing new, and I think that the people the most shocked are probably the ones that don't want thier business out there.
Stop lying yes everyone is surprised…..you a damn hater…..nuepes love women not hard legs……he not a nupe anyhow
Sorry to disappoint you Rokk, but there are a lot of gay Kappas (and Alphas as well). I went to school with them and know them. Perhaps you are an old school Kappa where it wasn't as prevalent, but by the time I entered college in 1997, there were lots of them (I think it was the allure of the pretty-boy facade).They covered by dating girls while in college and many I always suspected were gay and come to find out, they are. Yes people are shocked, but it's only because of the spectacle this Kappa made being out of the closet and marrying.
I have a wonderful friend that is in a fraternity that recently got married to another brother. I am ecstatic that he can find happiness, something many of us are seeking all the time. I celebrate love. I don't hate on it. #lonelybishes
Let people live the lives they want to live, thats what i say!!! Beautiful video. some are so sick & tired of their own miserable, loveless lives that they prey on others.
It's a really nice wedding…congrats to the happy couple…best wishes to them !!!
Calling evil good, wild wake up. Two men, just look at it and I'm not judging, it is wrong and you can congrat evil to be good if you like; but I am here to tell you and everybody who supports this mees that it is wrong and there is not a way in Heave you can OK this mess. Jesus died for our sins, and his word tells us not to be overcome by evil.
If you were gonna say it was evil, at least have the audacity to spell Heaven correctly. You say you're not judging, but you're calling this whole thing evil. Contradict yourself much?
Exactly @ Neith08!!!! Folks need to stop worrying about who someone else is loving and find some love of their own
As a member of Kappa Alpha Psi, i'm speechless!
is this a bad speechless?
I don't see what the big deal is. So what there are gay men in fraternities?! There are more important issues we need to be worried about. People love to claim that gay relationships are screwing up str8 marriage….how the hell does that even work?! That doesn't even make sense! More people in the glbt community stay together for waaaay longer than str8 folks. The travesty here is being closed minded and feeling like you have the right to tell people that they are wrong for loving who they are. grow up!
So, I guess if you are gay, you can't serve in the Armed Forces or join a fraternity?? Yet another indication of how far we still have to go in society. Congrats to the couple who shared vows and married each other- regardless of their race, sexual orientation, or greek affiliation. Hopefully, one day in the near future, 2 men (or women) getting married won't be news.
Don't ask don't tell has been thrown out. You can serve in the military and openly be yourself.
Omg…people crazy…Congrats to the Couple dope weeding too!!!
I will say that I am not a fan of safe sex marriages, but I believe that everyone should have an opportunity to be happy and these fellas look happy. Being a member of a BGLO is irrelevant. People come to these organizations as they are…period.
I will say that I am not a fan of same sex marriages, but I believe that everyone should have an opportunity to be happy and these fellas look happy. Being a member of a BGLO is irrelevant. People come to these organizations as they are…period.
I think people are entitle to marry who they want but what was the purpose of throwing up the Yo signal? He was not representing Kappa, he was getting married. This was to put shame on our fraternity for whatever reason he had. To your remark of people come in as they are. That is not true. They know they are going to an interview so they tell what they want to tell and hide what they want to hide. Some of them get in the fraternity because their father is a Kappa. Kappa should not have played any part in this. He was not doing Kappa business. If being a member of a BGLO is irrelevant then why did he make it relevent? You couldn't just look at him and say he is a Kappa. Somebody made it relevant. He should be band from the fraternity, not because he's gay but because he used the fraternity for public display. I hope our fraternity take action.
What kind of action what the fraternity be able to take? Legal action? On what grounds? I am not trying to be funny with this question at all. The guy is in fact, a Kappa, so isn't he entitled to "throw up the Yo"? I mean, there are several instances where I have seen Greeks repping their fraternity/sorority on occasions that do not constitute as "frat business". I have seen women and men at hetero weddings taking pics and "being Greek". Is the organization able to "take action" against these folks? Whether you are for or against it, I do believe these are legitimate questions.
What? That is stupid. Kappas and other frats throw up their signs at just about all of their weddings. But even if they could take some action, they are TOO BUSY taking action on a bunch of dumb @zz mess with hazing, maiming and killing people in your fraternity to be bothered with anyone's wedding. You don't have a damn thing to say until you all stop enslaving black men in your membership intake processes. Be glad your frat is showing some love to another.
We are not to judge! The wedding was gorgeous tho!!! Ive seen many ideas I Wanna use for my nuptial!
Can I say something that is completely off topic? I want that adorable dog in their wedding! #TisAll
Now people finally realize that greeks are still people too. I'm not greek (yet) or gay, however when I'm done pledging soon MORE WOMEN FOR ME!!!! :) Do your thing nupes.. P.S. that shimmy shit still go hard…
Congrats to the couple…Love is Love…We all are equal.
My founders are turning over in their graves because of you… You single handedly embarrassed the frat…
I bet!
SMDH!
You should be ashamed that you are ashamed!
NO 1 action by ANY 1 man can embarrass the entire frat and wut have U done that gave the frat somethin 2 be so proud of. Not to mention that you don't know yo founders private life so how u know that they would have such a problem that they'd be turnin over in their graves as u put it. And on another note gay, bi, straight, or have no damn clue dats still pose 2 be yo Bruh and you talkin shit bout yo Bruhs happiness damn is dat how Bruhs do as a NUPE smh no wonder yall fallin off everywhere. Truly have forgoten da meanin of BROTHERHOOD not to mention 1/2 of da niggs u cool wit right now and dat was on yo line probably livin da same life dis man is and u don't even know. Respect yo Bruh, his life, and his wishs dats wut a REAL Bruh would do. SMDH glad I didn't pledge NUPE, NO BROTHERLY LOVE or SUPPORT
You are ashamed because you are ignorant and a hypocrite!!!!! I am a straight women who is happily married but are suppose to be happy and live there on lives. Who are you to discriminate? Check yourself
Nah… your founders are embarrased because y'all hazing ery'body. Damn nearing killing people to call them "bruh" later one.
Congrats to the happy couple!
This was soo beautiful forget you negative people
Absolutely beautiful! Congrats!
What a beautiful union! Congrats to you both!
Man look here, people are quick to bash other peoples choices and sins when we all make incorrect choices and sin. Who cares, his marriage may last longer than ones who critique his union simply because he is gay. Let him do what he wants, its his life not yours. Plus its millions of other gays out here in other organizations too. At least he is living his life, the question is are you? oh and Im a straight male and fellow member of Kappa Alpha Psi,
YO BABY!
5 KLUB E.O
I noticed a lot of woman commented how GREAT this is!!!!! The same women that when a straight or hetrosexual man try to approach, date, etc you are are so concerned about asking if they are "GAY!" Women, you can't have it both ways…well, on second thoughts you can, most of you are so desperate you will take it how you can get it. Stop supporting what you really don't know nor like!!!!! Dude got married to another dude, I'll save my opinion on that for a later topic, I don't have to right to comment either way, but I'm tired of WOMEN acting as though they support it and then get around their girls and condemn GAY, STRAIGHT, BI, TRAPPED, CONFUSED, ETC.
I know more gay black frat brothers and soror sisters than I care to count. Some of which remain on the DL or in the closet because Black folks have no problem loving their drug addicted or criminal children, but find no love in their hearts for their Gay children.
Bottom line is Marriage Equality should be a fundamental right just like any other civil right. Whether we like it or not, it is upon us. If you and your children are not gay it certainly wont affect you. However, gay couples pay taxes that go toward the social security payments of all heterosexuals and to their spouses when they die. When a same sex couple has no chance to receive the same benefits when their partner dies. Same taxes different laws. Heterosexual couples get hundreds if not thousands of tax benefits/breaks because they are married. No such breaks for same sex couples who have spent their entire lives together. Not Fair!
Dude stop the non- sense! Do not try to make homosexuality right by God because of taxes! Kill the noise.. God is not going to bless that union period because its against His Word, nor is he going to bless the adulter, the lier, thief, or murderer why because its against His Word. His grace and mercy is bestowed upon all sinners because we all have fallen short, but it is only when we turn from our wicked ways. This is a lifestyle choice they choose to live no different than the thief and liar or fornicator. Do not try to make this right or any other sin right by Gods standard because it is not. This is a willful sin that will be judged like all others. We will no longer exists if everyone was to chose this life style it's not what God ordained. Now if this is the life people choose to lead then have at it but do not try to attempt to make it right from a biblical stand point because bottom line is this God is not in it.
Love…its a word that is loosley thrown around and not really understood… I dont agree with the union or the lifestyle…#thatisall
*loosely
This is unbelievable. I'm a long time member of this noble klan and I believe Elder Watson Diggs would be disgusted. Neither I nor the fraternity has ever supported men or women alike of the same sex getting wedded. Marriage is defined as a union between a man and woman; not a man and a man or a woman and a woman. God created to sex of people and that's man and woman. If you're anything else or in between then you made yourself. God doesn't make mistakes. This is what man an woman have created and desires for the world to embrace. I have no problem with homosexuality but I prefer not to have see it in public.
""Neither I nor the fraternity has ever supported men or women alike of the same sex getting wedded.", "I have no problem with homosexuality but I prefer not to have see it in public. "
Well which one is it? You don't support it and you don't have problem with it, so what's the fucking big deal? Just don't suscribe to it then! It's always the most heterosexual men that have the MOST to say about gay men. If your founders are turning in their graves to this, how about the countless other amounts of bullshit your frat brothers do?
Congrats Guys!!! Its amazing how Black folk pick and choose what they want to follow, believe in and uphold from the Bible lol. The Bible also says that its a sin to eat shellfish…so that crab leg and shrimp dinner you had down at Joe's Crab shack is sure to send you straight to hell!!! If you are going to quote the Bible please give the book its just due and quote it correctly and stop quoting these force feed Bible verses you absolutely know nothing about.
Anywho..the bottom line is marriage in itself is a CONSTITUTIONAL CIVIL RIGHT that MUST be given to ALL people no matter how the word is defined. Simple as that! If you dont approve of or like marriage, hell, dont get gay married!!! I am more than sure some of the good ol white boys didnt have a problem with us niggas, as long as they didnt have to see our black ass out in public…#fukottahere
If you dont approve of or like *GAY marriage, hell, dont get gay married!!!
Amen!
Sir have several seats! This 2012 not 1969!
Would Elder be disgusted at the drunkardness, the whores brothers bring to the hotel rooms at the conclaves and the cheating on the wives back home that occurs during the conclaves, province council meetings and fraternal events? Yes I agree God doesn't make mistakes, ""Before I formed you in the belly, I knew you.". I don't have a problem with heterosexuality, i just perfer not to see it in public myself, how about that?
Who this man chose to love is none of our business. Their union does not affect any of us nor does it threaten the institution of heteroxsexual marriage. Heterosexuals are doing a great job at destroying their own marrigages on their own. Hey if you against gay coulples getting married then don't marry a gay person.
FYI gay folks are everywhere and have been around since the beginning of time and guess what they are not going anywhere, the days for marginalizing gays are done! There are gays yes in every frat, in the military, in church, schools, universities, hospitals, congress, judges, law inforcement you name it they are represented their.
Nate: AWESOME WEDDING AGAIN. Best wishes for a long life of happiness
#justmyopinion.
God Bless you both! loved the video and actually got teary-eyed! They always said "Black Love is a BEAUTIFUL thing" and you sirs exemplify it!!! Done with a great amount of class, elegance, and DIGNITY!
To all the nay-sayers: It's 2012 not 1962 build a bridge and get over your own ignorance and insecurities!
Congrats again to the Handsome Grooms!!!
Im not sure which was funnier dude saying ”my husband” or Jasmine talking about a dog!! Gay marriage is just as wrong as murder is
You are an embarrassment to the noble klan….and your are a friend of theres and not a friend of ours. God cant be at the peak if your diamond.
.Kappamen were taught how to treat women with respect and how to impress them….open up doors ect…and you holding hands and kissing a dude man your sick…I bet he didnt pledge…a paper gay ass” kappa” or didnt tell anyone he was gay until afterwards.I bet by the end of the week he wont be a member anymore.
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Lovely wedding. I don't dislike gays but it is wrong and gays getting married is WRONG WRONG WRONG. How many kids will they have? Hopefully they don't adopt SMH
Love is not Love. Same-sex marriage is an abomination to God and it goes against the union and sanctity of marriage (between man and woman . The point isn't that they're Kappa, the point is that same-sex marriage is something that shouldn't be allowed. There is still hope for them though. God bless them
Congrats Guys!!! Its amazing how Black folk pick and choose what they want to follow, believe in and uphold from the Bible lol. The Bible also says that its a sin to eat shellfish…so that crab leg and shrimp dinner you had down at Joe's Crab shack is sure to send you straight to hell!!! If you are going to quote the Bible please give the book its just due and quote it correctly and stop quoting these force feed Bible verses you absolutely know nothing about.
Anywho..the bottom line is marriage in itself is a CONSTITUTIONAL CIVIL RIGHT that MUST be given to ALL people no matter how the word is defined. Simple as that! If you dont approve of or like marriage, hell, dont get gay married!!!…#fukottahere
Congrats Guys!!! Its amazing how Black folk pick and choose what they want to follow, believe in and uphold from the Bible lol. The Bible also says that its a sin to eat shellfish…so that crab leg and shrimp dinner you had down at Joe's Crab shack is sure to send you straight to hell!!! If you are going to quote the Bible please give the book its just due and quote it correctly and stop quoting these force feed Bible verses you absolutely know nothing about.
Anywho..the bottom line is marriage in itself is a CONSTITUTIONAL CIVIL RIGHT that MUST be given to ALL people no matter how the word is defined. Simple as that! If you dont approve of or like GAY marriage, hell, dont get gay married!!! #fukottahere
Phi Nu Pi . . . . first let the church say "amen", that reception table was incredible. I want to thank you brother for starting this conversation. Admittidly, my knee-jerk reaction to your nuptuals and the association with the Frat was a concern for the "brand" and image. However, there's nothing ouside of diversely defining "manliness" that I could attribute any objection. Additionally, in referencing our objectives, the one that most applied was:
To promote the spiritual, social, intellectual and moral welfare of its members
You brother have met and exceeded this objective . . . . obviously your LB's support you, so I don't see why the entire Frat can't support this noble achievement, congratulations and best wishes!
Marriage is an ordinance of worship, a gift from God for one man and one woman to display the glory of the TRUE marriage Christ and His bride, the church. Therefore, there is absolutely NO WAY that gay "marriage" can live up to the purpose for which marriage was intended.
With that being said I have no vote or opinion on civil unions. I do believe that as American citizens people have the right to choose who they will spend their lives with. I also believe that ALL citizens should be entitled to the same, equal legal rights no matter their gender or sexual orientation. Age, race, class, gender, orientation, ability, etc. cannot and should not legally be determinants of rights bestowed by the nation state on it's citizenry. I believe in equal rights for all people. The issue here is that American civil unions are not recognized in all states and many of the states that do recognize them make unfair discriminatory distinctions that limit the rights of people with civil unions- such as not allowing citizenship for civil unions in the same way that marriage to a US citizen guarantees citizenship. That shouldn't be allowed to happen. All Americans should have the same rights as guarenteed by the constitution. I am in support of civil unions. I will not EVER however support calling something a marriage that God clearly opposes in His Word. Leave marriage for the purpose God intended. Get legally united in a civil union if you wish to live otherwise.
God's Design for Marriage- http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/gods_design_for_marriage.aspx
Just FYI…. the Bible also says the marriage is soiled and void if the WOMAN is not a virgin. We follow what we want to follow in the BIble. No sin is any greater than any other except Blasphemy. LEAVE THEM ALONE> LET LOVE BE LOVE!!
What scripture in the bible did you find that statement?
#curiousneedingtoknow
And for you folks citing the Bible, Remember religion was used justify the enslavement of African-Americans. Oh how well we have learned from our fomer slave owners!
That Bible is our history the white man just stole it and manipulated it twisting the Scriptures, to justify the evil he was doing, at the end of it all we will be the head again when these curses are lifted (leviticus26&Deuteronomy 28) the most high allowed our enemies to over come us for disobedience following the ways of the world.
I'm not surprise I've always associated Kappa men as gay. Ok I know it's wrong but on my campus it was a known fact. Now my next thing is this I wouldn't care which frat he was in or who he was to each is their own they have to answer to God for their actions. Is this something I agree with NOT at all. Marriage is Btwn man and woman period but hey if they like it I love it. I saw the caption and was intrigued to see what it was but I refuse to watch the video As a mother of a son yes him telling me he was gay would break my heart but thank God he will not go that route he is covered by the blood of Jesus and he's being taught the word and the truth.
Do you realize how many gay men there are in the church? If and when your son should come to you and says "Mom, I'm gay", it will be hard, but you will do what every other mother who loves her child does. You will grieve, accept and then celebrate that he came to you and didn't decide to lock himself in his apartment and blow his brains out. And that's for real!
So called "Christians," have a lot to say until their flesh and blood child, who they've raised, loved, prayed over and made to sit through Sunday School, Sunday Service, Afternoon Service and Vacation Bible School comes to them and says, "I'm gay mom and I've always known it!"
You will discover the depths of your relationship with God–the Holy Spirit in that moment and the ones that follow. You will seek a Holy Spirit knowing that resonates with you, that guides you , that directs you, that comforts you and that ultimately liberates you–if you let it. And, you will recognize that your first duty is to love and fiercely and unapologetically and you will know God, like you never have before!
You obviously went to the wrong school Tonya and that's like saying all women are gold diggers on your campus!
Well I think it was simply beautiful no matter who it was and they look happy and in love ……and that’s what matters they were surrounded by family and friends I saw nothing but love in that video……again BEAUTIFUL. CONGRATS. GENTLEMEN :)
What a damn shame. Kentucky folk!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!
your wedding was absolutely beautiful. ONe can only dream of finding true love. I hope this lasts forever. Don't mind the negativity, we will all stand before God on our own & answer for what we did on Earth…and if loving someone of the same sex is the worst you've done, I think you'll be just fine on judgement day. What everyone chooses to do, is their own business. i'm so happy for you two! I need the person who came up with the idea for that table on my wedding planning team! Simply marvelous! I wish you two a long happy life together! God bless!
This is one of the most beautiful weddings I've ever seen. It honestly makes me wanna cry. I never thought about SERIOUSLY getting married until now.
& btw, for those sitting here quoting the bible and getting all upset, get over yourself. God is our judge, so you can #HAVEASEAT
^^^^^ Those two comments above are mine, btw. (I didn't see where to put my name the first two times, lol)
Absolutely beautiful… brought me to tears!
Forget what the world has to say… these two are clearly loved & adored by many.
Everything was beautiful!
The world didn't say it God did, so it's apparent your not a believer because you are saying forget what God says. quit taking scriptures to fit your wrong. To say it is Wrong and goes against God command is not judging, it's simply stating The God Truth.
Amen
Somebody did not do their screening job! You got the nuts to throw the Yo!!! Fucking sick!!! All and for all who support this shit.. You have a serious problem. Let this be a lesson to these new school bros. SCREENING PROCESS. Oh yeah HE IS NOT A NUPE NOR ARE THE ASS HOLES POSING WITH HIM.
This s@*# is wrong and any if NUPE support this s@#* then F@#k u and your chapter. We need to do a better job in screening brothers…
What chapter did that Nigga go over at? I’m F’91 Nupe and this shit is dishornable. We have C Roger Wilson next week and this shit needs to be address. I’m tired of these Gay ass Niggas joining the Frat…these young brothers need to do a better job screening NIGGAS.
Curious. How do you plan to "screen" for homosexuality because although fraternities are private organizations wouldn't that open up possibilities for discrimation lawsuits?Now that right there would be unneeded attention to an embattled frat already rife with hazing allegations. There were at least 5 gay Kappas in lines (most had plenty of girlfriends in school, but they are now gay) that crossed while I was in school from 97-01 and a couple of gay Alphas. I think the biggest issue is that his being gay and the fact that he happens to be a Kappa is now public knowledge.
The Dreamer and the Other Nine Achievers are turning over in their graves…
Ugh.
My argument is not with allowing same-gender lpving men into the Fraternity. My argument is that these men are drawing UNECESSARY attention to the Fraternity on an issue that is hotly contested. Kappa is not concerned with sexual orientation it is concerned with achievement. Also Do NOT throw up the YO if you haven't even paid ypur annual dues. Nathanael Gay is NOT in good standing in the Fraternity. He crossed duing undergrad at the University of Kentucky Fall 2001. This is negative PR that Kappa does not need and cannot afford.
IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU GUYS……CONGRATS….AND YOU DO HAVE PEOPLE ON YOUR SIDE……WE SUPPORT THIS…… I BELIEVE THAT LOVE IS AMAZING…IT JUST NOT ENOUGH OF IT IN THIS WORLD………YOU BIGGEST FAN…..
Okay, this is the prettiest wedding I've seen in a long time.
I Love human kind as a whole, and I know God looks at all sins the same.. however I also love the truth, so when I speak I am only speaking out of love. so please dont think I hate gays cause I dont. Same sex dating is wrong.. let alone getting married to the same sex.. Although I admit it was a very lovely wedding. I believe God has nothing to do with this and he will not bless it or the preacher who performed it.. Everybody has their own opinion and since this is a public forum.. I have the right to say what I believe is the truth.. You people are making excuses for sin.. You find every word around the truth and God detests it. you all are selling your souls to Satan for the sake of being politically correct.. I know ill probably get cussed out behind this but I stand for the truth and that matters above all. Repent and divorce this ungodly marraige and find a woman you can love and marry her. God will bless that.. am I perfect? no. but I am trying to live as holy as I can and you all need to do the same.
This is very sad and has nothing to do with the FRAT. Big deal two gay guys got married; what does that have to do with being a Kappa? NOTHING! This is just some dude trying to get his 15 minutes of fame by using the name of a fraternity. Someone should HAZE him for abusing a fraternity’s name in this fashion.
Why didn’t he put out a press release saying ‘Two gay employees of XYZ Company got married?’ — Because they would have been quickly fired and rightly so. Dude needs to get a real life and stop trying to tarnish the good name of others.
This is absolutely amazing! Congrats and enjoy life together. It's great to see you both deeply in love.
I'm in the throes of planning a wedding for 9/1/13. I need to know the websites and other resources you used to set the ambiance at your reception. Please & thank you.
Do these Nay-Sayers really believe that their comments mean anything?!?!? All of them need to have several # _/ _/ _/ _/
I think the more important point is that this guy and people who has his same thought process has failed to come clean during the screening process. I see my other frats on here talking about “better screening process” well unless you are in this man’s bedroom or following him around looking for public display of affection how do you plan to figure out he’s gay? This guy failed to uphold his integrity and his line brothers (if those wasn’t the clowns posing with him) should be extremely disappointing for holding on to such a big secret. This really shine negative light on the Frat and more so their chapter.
I think what needs to happen now is an investigation needs to take place on this Chapter, because just like anything else, you always have a bad apple or seed when you begin standing up Chapters everywhere. Now for those on here who are simple minded, you take this situation and relate it to the entire frat. That shows how ignorant you are and if you made a comment like that then, we see just how uneducated you are for making such carless comments.
Let me explain, there are churches around here that have orgy’s, homosexuality, and all kinds of infidelity happening. Now how would you feel if someone said that if you go to church you participate in homosexuality? Oh Oh now you see what I’m saying huh? Big dummy wake up and think about shit before you say it. Shut that dam chapter down until a proper investigation is done to make sure that the mess from 2001 isnt still lingering.
Hey respect the fact that you can love who you want, but I am a proud member of Kappa and this is tough for me to deal with. How can we hold our heads and be proud Kappa men. The young brothers on the yard are going to have some tough days. With that being said, times are changing and we know that their are gay men in every fraternity. I must admit that I wont be putting on any pub no time soon. EO
I totally loved it, from one black man to the both of you congrats….
Beautiful wedding
I think it’s a horrible thing that a men in my noble Fraternity has moved so for away from GOD. When we crossed the sands we took the pledge to be MEN first. If you are going to be lost in your SIN you should have kept Kappa out of it. You brother have disgraced all of us.
LOL Typical Kapp Behavior!!
Nupe, I reject the idea that he alone can disgrace my noble frat. We can only control our own actions and not those of other brothers. Walk your walk, out-shine and out publisize this brother with your moral values/character in your noble pursuits – that's how you get this done, your remarks come from a position of defeat, and not a challenge to win your battle in the quest for achievement embracing Phi Nu Pi!
I agree. What would you expect from a group of men, who constantly call themselves "pretty"…
It saddens me that the majority of the people in the negative are alwatalways using the BILBE and the Lord and align it with Hatred and Disgust with something so beautiful ans that’s LOVE. Don’t use the Bible because you dislike seeing another man happy. Seem like the Bible ain’t doing some of y’al wannabe “Christian” folk any good of y’all wanna come on here talking all that negative nonsense and y’all prolly miserable and depressed. Give love and commend a black brother for showing his love for his partner and his fraternity. These fake church holy ghost folk make me so ill when they jump all over an issue dealing with LGBT & wanna throw all them man made Scriptures all in everybody face. Ashamed at the way many people who have seen oppression do it to the next man with a Bible in they hand. Saying its wrong it ain’t right and be the main ones being ugly.
As an old school Nupe I would be remiss not to comment on this. First I don't care if a person is gay but Kappa standards and objectives don't mesh with that lifestyle. All real Bros understand this sentiment.
Kappa Standards are oppressing others and very weak. Y’all may have high standards but low morals. Just either say You don’t like the fact he didn’t pay dues and is not in good standing to Rep Kappa. But by some of y’all adding the negative comments behind about this being nasty is disgusting is beyond foolish brothers. Y’all surprised? Then some of y’all must be BLIND.
As a member of the Frat im disgusted!!
To all the Kappas why hate this brother. What do you say to the brothers that are cheating on their wives at your Kappa events, that is a sin also. A sin is a sin. So stop sinning. Do not throw a stone at someones house if yours is not perfect. So if you wait to make a statement out of this stop cheating on your wives and girlfriends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
very beautiful
A Kappa wants to launch an investigation on him and bring up that he allegedly doesn’t pay dues. But what if this was a man and a woman nothing would even be said. It wouldn’t have even made it here. Making up any excuse to not see another happy. Smh at y’all GROW UP AND GET OVER IT!!!!
Doesn’t matter if Kappa launches an investigation or not he pledged, got his letters, and did what was required for membership … just because he may not br financially active doest mean he is nit still a member, he can still Rep Kappa…
WOW! I don't think Jasmine's had this many consecutive comments in a while! Forget Kanye and Kim this is where it's at! LOL
Congrats FRAT your wedding looks Nupefied HAHAHAHA wish you and your mate the best
Where is God in all this homosexual marriage ? Answer that question? Please.
God was obviously there as God is everywhere… or did i miss something?
Where is God in all this homosexual marriage ? Answer that question? Please.
If this is the end of days, Im glad they are ending with people being able to love each other as they choose. be peace!!
I really pitty the condition of sin which we all are in. I desire to live holy but we all fall short; however, some of us have fallen so far away from God that it would take a miracle…..This relationship is doomed because it is a perversion.
Love is love I guess..but this is not natural…we are all mammals….and I have yet to the see in discovery or animal planet two males mating….please believe does effect children because sites like this promote it and children do see these images…not good…..but awesome wedding wish i could have been there because the wedding party was fine as heaven….and it looked like all of them were single
I'm pretty sure the jesus i know isn't the same guy some of you folks are talking about. My Jesus hung out with eunichs, and historicallly "born eunichs" included homosexuals with intact genitals that dedicated themselves to the Kingdom.. If Jesus could hang out with the gays then, i'm pretty sure he's still cool with them now as long as they understand their responsibilities as children of God.
Political factions have used and manipulated the word for their own agendas for as long as its existed. Hatemongers twisting and reinterpretting the word is nothing new either…need i remind some of you that Christian slave owners felt it was their God given right to keep our ancestors captive for 500+ years based upon several scriptures found in the Old and New Testaments.
Now yo free black butts wanna act the fool just to look just like the men who raped your grandmothers and valued you as only a 1/3 of a human being.
Stop trying to teach on a subject you know evidently have the wrong information on! Jesus never and I do mean never supported homosexuality. He encouraged every sinner to turn from their wicked ways. We are to follow Christ as He is Lead by his Father God. Don't get it twisted Jesus loves everyone but is not going support what is against his fathers will. Your putting out bad information dude.
I've obtained more information on the matter than you obviously have. As i said some "born eunuchs" were homosexuals, and an obvious part of being a eunuch is CELIBACY. There were those who despite the urges of their flesh chose to walk a path that even Christ regarded highly. Them being homosexual didn't matter, their walk did in his eyes. The problem with the usage of the word "homosexual" in the Bible is that its a loose translation applied to another loose translation with no regard for the era or linguistics. Whether sodomite or arsenokoít?s, neither term appropriately addresses same gender loving individuals as much as it refers to the paganistic individuals who engaged in those activities at that time. So when the word "homosexual" came into existence in 1892 and was then thrown into the English Bible in 1942, all it did was further dilute an already dwindling clarity on who and what Timothy was referring to. The sin is the pursuit of the flesh, and this union is an exhibition of love. No different than David and Jonathan or Ruth and Naomi. Love is not the sin, for God is Love. And that is where the confusion dwells.
God made us free moral beings, he gave us the right to choose to follow him or the follow the world. Who cares if one of these guys is a Kappa, he could have easily been a Que Dog. The sad part is two men got married and it seems to be okay, with,many. In the bible God destroyed Sodom and Gomara for the same types of behavior. It seems as if every thing that’s anti-God, is okay with the world today. Yes we have all sinned and have come short of his glory, but the key is too repent. Too many are taking the things of God lightly.
Congrats the lovely couple!
Congratulations! Everyone deserves happiness. Beautiful ceremony and couple.
I am so proud of you guy I was I was invited ,yall look Fantastic,these hater need to get in the game or just sit on the side line and watch wit mouth shut .
God's speed guys
Times are changing and this is with out a big change. Perhaps again the Nupes will be trailblazers in Gay rights, but at this very moment this is tough to swallow(pun intended). In time we may support these brothers, but like any new change this will take time.
wow! end of times as we know it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! men fucking men an women doing women!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! end of times!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OMG WHO CARES if they are homosexual….in a frat.. whatever. This was a beautiful ceremony, classy too the tee. I wish them the best of luck in the years to come.
THIS IS A DAMN SHAME!!!
NUFF SAID!!
As a lady of Alpha Kappa Alpha I totally agree with you DKB. I pledged in Spring 97 and I have to say that I am appalled at the mock dries being made at the expense of our organizations that our founding brothers and sisters worked hard to create. The purpose was to provide opportunities of fellowship, networking and unity among African American professionals. I am truly disappointed in the lack of quality individuals allowed in our organizations and maybe us older Greeks should become more involved with these undergrad chapters. I have love for every one of our “Divine Nine,”and don’t wish to see any reduced to a travesty of freaks and weirdos.
For all of you busy quoting the bible, do you agree with Leviticus 20:13 where it says that men involved in same sex relationships should be put to death? Lets face it, the biblical position on homosexuality – that it is an offence worthy of death would horrify most right thinking people today. Love between consenting non-related adults, is nobody's business but their own. However if society wants to reward some loving relationships between non-related consenting adults, then those benefits should extend to anyone in those kind of loving relationships- regardless of orientation.
Well first congratulations on your wedding it was absolutely beautiful. I know this brother had to know that by puttig up this video he was going to get negative backlash from the public. This is a Hot Topic as such these days. But I would rather see two men be honest to who they are than do some of the real sinful stuff that goes on such as Mr. Sandusky (Penn State) coach by molesting little boys because he is obviously a suprressed homosexual male, or the Catholic preachers who are not allowed to be married or openly gay so they molest the alter boys, or even our dear black brothers who are so ashamed of who they are that they choose to live life with a wife and family while all along sleeping with some dude or many different dudes only to end up bringing back Aids to his wife who then becomes a statistic because he felt that his BROTHERS would not support his Life choice….The bottom line is simply this, each man has to stand before God for HIS OWN sins, not the sins of his father, mother sister, brother or fellow friend or foe. And I thank God for Somebody, Anybody, who is willing to adopt these poor children that has been abandoned by all these STRAIGHT MEN AND WOMEN, left like yesterdays trash. If it's gay loving couples who will take them and love them and teach them to love themselves and respect the lives of others, then I say, god Bless You. We need to remember that HATE is a sin as well.
I hate to say, but ppl need to stop judging.. THAT's only in the eyes of God to do so.
BLACK PEOPLE SHOULD SUPPORT BLACK PEOPLE NO MATTER WHAT PURPOSE IT IS AS LONG IT IS JUSTIFIED BY THE EYES OF THE LAW!!!…
DAMN SHAME A REV> SHOULD KNOW GOD"S IS OF LOVE< NOT HATE> THE BIBLE TELLS THE STORY NOT THE WHOLE SPOKEN TRUTH>
HOMOSEXUALLY HAS BEEN IN HISTORY AND STILL BE A FOUNDATION OF UNITY AS LONG AS WE LIVE ON THIS EARTH AND AS IT SO IN HEAVEN.
ALL YOU NEED TO DO , IS BLESS THIS FAMILY AND SO THEY LIVE THEIR AS ABUNDANTLY THROUGH CHRIST< SHOW LOVE AND HAPPINESS WHERE EVER THEIR NEXT JOURNEY MAKE TAKE THEM.
CONGRATS/ GOD BLESS YOU.
As a Nupe, a christian and pastor I have to speak the truth. This situation is showing us what to expect from the Obama administration in the future if he wins. These guys had a secular ceremony, it wasnt a wedding and its not a marriage. No God fearing Preacher would officate a act of defiance against the word of God. For all the people who are saying this event was good, and great. If I were you while blood is still warm in your body i would repent. Youll are bringing damnation upon your selves.
yep…let's vote for Romney, who upholds Christian morals…but who has no sense of social connect to your congregation. A congregation i seriously doubt consists of 1 percenters, whom Romney ultimately represents. A congreation i'm sure is made up of that 47% that he so casually disregards. Obama made a tough call, so did Kennedy and Johnson, so did Lincoln, get over it. 100 years from now you'll be considered a bigot who hid behind a Bible while people suffered just like the white preachers that let black churches burn across the south. All because they believed "their" God saw it fit.
So as a "Nupe, Christian and Pastor" you support the heretical religion of Mormon, as the moral basis for potential leadership of this country? Please, non-Nupe, if so, you're the biggest hypocrite posting to this site.
Wtf omg they two consenting adults whom on the course of their relationship has heard it all both ways and none of it matters evidently they in love and the people around them share that love it was beautiful. In the end when this life is over there is only one righteous judge and we have all fallen short..
Congratulations…Simply Beautiful…Much happiness to you.
I LOVE THIS VIDEO
It gives me so much hope as a young black gay male. THANK YOU!!!!
I think both of you looked so handsome,may God bless your union.
I do not think that being a part of KAPSI has anything to do with the homosexuality. That is his personal preference. I would appreciate it if persons would stop trying to incorrectly interpret the scripture because in the Bible homosexuality is wrong, that is a known fact so leave God and the Bible out of this madness. Happiness however, can be defined by anyone and if they are happy leave them alone. Their happiness is just an abomination of God’s word. Being a Kappa has nothing to do with it because he may just very well be an OUTSTANDING Kappa that does his community service and pays chapter dues. Come on guys, it’s a fallacy. One thing has nothing to do with the next so leave GREEKDOM out of it because greekdom does not support nor encourage homosexuality.
Fuck the wedding
this was so beautiful! they just look so genuinely happy. I found myself smiling the entire time as if I personally knew them. YOU GO GUYS!!
I was married for 12 years to a female because ignorant people like you. I got married after I pledged Omega, and I knew I was not attracted to ladies, however, the reason being married because If I was married to a Lady, I can stop my attraction to men. However, that did not happen. After being married for 12 years and being miserable, I decided to say fuck what people have to say. I am going to be True to myself and be me. I have been divorced for over 10 years, and me and my partner is getting married next year. He is not greek. The only regrets I have is to live a LIE and hurt a beautiful young lady. I applaud all the men who are living their truth, not DL, just being themselves and not hurting any more black ladies………..
The wedding was wonderful so very wonderful.
I wish the two gentlemen a lifetime of health,
safety, inner peace, and love.
Congratulations to the couple with the courage to walk their own path. What’s interesting about the comments from the bible defenders and homophobes, is the constant mention of anal sex. The first thing that comes to your mind isn’t how these guys care for each other when ill, support each others’ dreams, or contribute to each others’ personal growth. Instead your minds instantly go below the belt. Why is anal sex the first and only thing you think about? When I see a straight couple promising to cherish one another for a lifetime, I’m not thinking about him going in her backdoor, who’s giving who head, or who’s using nipple clamps. You’re claiming these gay guys are sick, but how sick are YOU to diminish this entire commitment to anal sex? Seems the true perversions lie with the accusers. If homosexuality is bothering god that much, I’m pretty sure god is omnipotent enough to speak for himself – mankind doesn’t need anymore self-appointed translators getting it all wrong.
I find most people that use the bible to justify their own half-witted opinions have limited understanding of history, psychology, and/or simply operate from a mindset of fear. If these are the last days, they are the last days of ignorance; of voluntarily walking in darkness while trying to convince yourself (and others) you are happy with your drab existence. These are the days of seeking higher levels of consciousness. It will be a while before archaic mindsets die out, but thank god we’re well on our way. Congratulations to the couple. I wish you both many years of happiness – peace and blessings to you both.
Another overblown story using labels to attempt to incite reaction. End of the day, this is their business. Not ours. Not an entire fraternity’s. Not the world’s.
stop it, just stop it, trying to justify that b.s. this would have never happen back in the day.Nupe love women, this is the beginning of the end for any frat that thinks about accepting folks for money rather on the principles the frat was founded on. Real nupes donot do other men,no way, i hope that my son will look past this perverted behavior and keep the nupe tradition in our family.