If there’s one gospel artist who knows how to bring the gospel to mainstream, it’s artist Erica Campbell. The Cali-bred singer, who is 1/2 of Mary Mary and stars on WeTV’s reality show ‘Mary Mary‘, recently chatted with CNikky.com, spilling all types of sanctified and controversial tea about her controversial new single, ‘I Luh God’; the shocking news about her and hubby Warryn starting their own church; sexuality in Christianity and more.
While discussing the I Am More Than Pretty movement (that she started with Hollywood couple Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin), Erica had a lot to say about women tearing themselves down, searching for validation, having sex with multiple partners, not owning their sensuality and people being addicted to ‘likes’ on social media.
Peep a few excerpts.
I’ve had a lot of heartbreak, I’ve made some wrong decisions. I wish I could say that I was a virgin when I got married but I was not. And through a sincere desire to know God, and to know why our super sexualized culture is now the authority and not people of God. When God created sex! And he created sexuality and sensuality! I mean we demonize girls with curves, we demonize people who are aware of themselves. This is a God thing! It gives you a different kind of authority and power to walk in a room and be fully aware of who you are and not need someone to go, ‘Ooh you look cute today,’ you should already know that! That’s not arrogance!You should feel comfortable when you walk out of the house. You shouldn’t look at yourself in the mirror and only point out your flaws. You shouldn’t get dressed and the moment someone gives you a compliment you say, ‘Well you know I had to wear spanx! Or, well, this was only $5. We minimize everything about ourselves. And even women who get married, your husband who married you and wants to be with you, all you do is ask him, ‘Am I too fat?’ ‘Oooh don’t look!,’ ‘Turn the lights out,’, ‘This is too much.’ My husband literally told me the other day, he said “You’re the most beautiful woman on the planet, I don’t want you changing what I think! Stop pointing out stuff to me! That’s not what I see when I see you. I see you as a beautiful curvaceous woman and I want you just the way you are.’ And a lot of times in relationships, whether we’re married or not, that’s what we do. They see, ‘Oh my God she’s beautiful,’ and we point out all the negatives.”
Everything is based on likes. And depending on how many ‘likes’ I get will determine how much I like myself. We’re obsessed with going [through the phone] ‘Oh how many?’ ‘Oh I only got this many [likes] on this picture.’ ‘Oh she got a lot when she posted her behind, maybe I’ll post mine.’ ‘Oh she gets a lot when she post her titties, maybe I’ll post mine?’ We’re so torn and caught up in this circle and we’re not getting anywhere! So, I wanna talk about it. I want to be real honest and candid and talk about it.God made you perfect and beautiful and wonderful and if we embrace that then the enemy can’t fight you as hard as he does. He can’t trick you to make you think you need validation from someone else. It’s a beast that we feed and we’re feeding it bits and pieces of ourselves. And we’re dying sometimes at the same time.