Sunday evening, the final part 2 episode of ‘Iyanla: Fix My Life’, featuring Basketball Wives’ Evelyn Lozada aired. As you’ll recall, the first episode was taped before the alleged domestic violence incident with Evelyn’s estranged husband Chad ‘Ochocinco’ Johnson.
The final episode was taped after the alleged incident had happened and after Evelyn had filed for divorce. Peep some excerpts from the interview:
On how she got to the situation that she’s now in:
Not paying attention, just living life a mile a minute, working, making sure everything looks good. I would say the main thing is ignoring the million and one signs. He showed me so many times, until the day of. I feel like that’s why I’m here.
My conversation with him was that when you ever get into a place, I’d rather know. I’d rather you’d be honest w/ me. I think he just lives life in Chad’s world and doesn’t think about anything else. I’m like three weeks in, you’re not even trying. He’s really the one that wanted to get married.
I was a little in shock that it went that far. All I kept telling him is ‘Your daughter’s in the house’, I don’t want her to know we’re fighting. There was blood all over my face. I said to myself, ‘This is something that I will not deal with’.
That I knew the entire time– that he wasn’t going to be faithful. I allowed him to be him. I allowed myself to let him behave in that way.
I would see things. Pictures of women. Certain people calling. There was always something. I would always address it and he’d always have a story but I knew. Brushed it under the rug.
Infidelity, the arguing, the physical.
Never raised a finger. That is the truth. I think that’s what hurts me the most. That people associate me on Basketball Wives and make it–that it justifies his actions. If I spoke to him about a woman, or something I seen, he would get upset. Take my phone throw it, up in my face. I don’t-get that. I knew to just leave the argument alone.
This (points to her head) was the deal breaker. For me it was I had visible wounds.
I left with the clothes on my back. He’s in Miami; doing his own thing. I don’t think he’s ready to hear what I have to say to him. He obviously, ended up in jail, they released him. I do pray for him. That night revealed a lot of things about me. Such as ‘why are you dealing with this? why are you accepting this?’
Overall, what do you think of Evelyn’s interview? Do you understand or more now or have your feelings about her remained the same? Is there anything about her interview that surprised you?