EXCLUSIVE: Marriage Bootcamp’s Dr. Ish Addresses Tahiry Jose & Vado’s Domestic Violence Incident
In an exclusive interview with theJasmineBRAND, Marriage Bootcamp’s counselor Dr. Ish Major addresses the violent situation between cast members Tahiry Jose and Vado that took place this season. He reveals the steps he took to deescalate the situation, addressing Tahiry throwing apples at Vado, and the pattern of domestic violence she’s seen. Vado made headlines after a clip of him grabbing Tahiry Jose on the show surfaced.
Dr. Ish says,
“The first rule in a domestic violence situation is you secure the premises, you make it a safe space. That means whoever is the aggressor in that moment has to be removed, non-negotiable thats the rule, thats the medical rule, thats the legal rule. After that happens and whoever’s going to stay in the house, when’s the right time to address their part? So that’s the big question. Was Tahiry wrong for yelling and screaming in his face? Absolutely. Was Tahiry wrong for pushing that chair on him? Absolutely. Was she wrong for throwing those apples at him like she was a pitcher for the Yankees? Absolutely. But when is the right to talk to her about it? If a woman is in the midst of getting her face punched in, is that the time to go up and say, ‘Hey, you know what darling? The reason he’s hitting you is because you said that thing about his mom and you shouldn’t have said that, so you just gotta let it play out.’ No, obviously its not the right time. So in the aftermath of it you address it quick enough so that she can make the connection. ‘Hey, you know what I was wrong and I was very provocative in what I did and this is the part I played in the cycle of violence’.
But make no mistake, it’s a full on co-dependent relationship, there’s an information part that both are playing a part of, then there’s a big explosion which we saw, and then there’s usually a honeymoon after that. So yeah we addressed it, she obviously got it. It’s not the first time she’s been in that cycle and she understood in that moment that ‘Hey, maybe I’m probably not the best person to be in a relationship with anybody right now because I’ve got some unhealed stuff’. I think one of the big things was that she was mad at Vado for everything that was happening that day. In a relationship we’re never really reacting to the thing that’s happening in the moment, we’re reacting to the thing that happened in the last 10 moments.”
See the clip below.