Erykah Badu on BD's, Dating & Infedility

UK’s Telegraph magazine recently sat down with Erykah Badu to discuss her recent album, children’s fathers, dating, infidelity and more. Peep a few excerpts below:

On her album: I made sure I didn’t put together a collection of 99-cent iTunes songs. I made sure I did a project in the tradition of the beautiful music I grew up listening to. I’m a total analogue girl

On her children’s father: The fathers are present a lot. No one chooses to raise children alone. When you’re in a relationship you want it to work. My parents did, I did. But we are not taught how to make it work. We don’t know how to perform in relationships. I did maths, science, English but we weren’t taught about human interaction, about relations with the opposite sex.

On infidelity:  Infidelity is not a deal-breaker for me. We’re all born sexual beings. I myself am not someone with a very high libido. I don’t require sex for happiness – I need companionship. I need a partner I can depend on, that I can love and grow with. But I do understand the nature of these men I’ve been with, and men in general. They have a need to chase.

Does she tolerate infidelity? In my own kind of way. I’m having to recondition my brain, ’cos the first thing I got was a doll named Barbie and she had Ken and that’s how it was supposed to be. You’re conditioned to think that way, and when it doesn’t happen you feel you’re a failure. What we have in common, me and the brothers I’ve known, is that we are all trying to evolve. We talk a lot about things that men want. Because I want them to be happy and the more I see how the male of the species behaves, the more I understand, and the less I blame him. It’s just who he is. Is there a solution? Honesty is it. It will get you everywhere. Mind you, I have friends who are in polygamous relationships – they’re no more happy or sad than we are. But at least the bitches know what’s comin’ next! Full article here.

(((She has a unique take on infedility that we rarely hear from celebrities. I do understand it and think it’s very real in certain industries and environments. From men who are politicians to pastors, to men with non-W2 money, the issue of infedility is real, so perhaps we should not get all up in arms about it.)))