Reality TV star, entrepreneur, and New York Times bestselling author Antonia “Toya” Wright is currently promoting her brand new, self-published novel entitled “How to Lose a Husband” and recently spoke extensively with the infamous Breakfast Club on New York’s Power 105 about the book, K. Michelle, the struggles of dealing with marital issues with her estranged husband former Arista Records A&R Mickey “MeMpHitz” Wright, and so much more. She describes her newest writing as a “fiction book based off of real-life experiences,” considers it to be a “modern day ‘Waiting to Exhale,’” and encourages readers to “be the judge” of whether or not the six female characters in the book represent her. Here are some excerpts from the interview:
Her thoughts on K. Michelle:
I DON’T have a problem with K. Michelle. I think she’s a very beautiful girl, very talented. The whole social media thing came about because I just felt like I was being picked on and I ignored it time and time again. You know she called me dumb and dumber. She said she was gon’ smack me on site. Then you laugh at my book cover….I’m a woman that wanna see all women win. I would never tear down your music or discredit what you do. Don’t discredit what I do. I just feel like the whole situation was petty. We were both given a platform and to use it in that way to kind of bash each other and go back and forth…I thought it was unnecessary.
Her thoughts on K. Michelle’s allegations against MeMpHitz:
I wasn’t there. I don’t have anything to do with that situation. I never called her a liar. I never will call her a liar. I never defended my husband. I supported my husband. I supported the man that I know and still to this day. You can’t get upset with me for supporting someone that I’m married to. I’m just being a supportive wife. I never said ‘you are lying’ because I mean, it’s not my business and it’s still not and it has nothing to do with me.
On her new novel, “How to Lose a Husband” controversial title and self-publishing:
The reason I chose this title is because we live in a world today where negativity seems to go further than positivity. [People] made a joke out of this title but really…the moral of the story is you have to be whole before you can be anyone’s half. This is a 100 percent independent project. I wrote my first book, “Pricelesss Inspirations,” which was a New York Times bestseller, and I went through a publishing company. Horrible experience. So I decided to self-publish this book and….I’m loving every bit of it.
On the infamous “hall pass:”
The hall pass thing started off as a joke…a pillow talk joke. We were watching a movie and my husband is kind of into things that I’m not really into such as threesomes. Sorry, I’m not that girl. I was like I’m not really into threesomes. But that’s your sexual appetite.Everybody has different sexual appetites. So I said to him, ‘well you better take this hall pass…’ But it’s not like I gave him a hall pass and I allowed him to go cheat on me and come back when he want to. Now that never happened. When we were together, I can tell you that he didn’t use a hall pass because it never really came up like that.
Her thoughts on cheating:
Honestly, women should not expect to get cheated on but I really feel like every man cheats. Every man cheats is how I feel. It’s not cool. Some men are sloppy with it. Some men you would never find out but it’s some type of cheating going on whether it’s conversation with other women. If you’re talking to a woman in a sexual way over a text message, that is cheating.
On whether or not she and MeMpHitz will get divorced:
Honestly, I love my husband. I think he’s truly wonderful. He is a great guy. I’m at a point right now where I’m kinda just focused on me. Who knows what the future holds? I would love to one day, hopefully, make things work…Like I said, you have to be whole before you can be anyone’s half. In order to make him happy, I have to be 100 percent happy with me. And in order to make me happy, he has to be where he wanna be career wise….just everything.
Wright also discussed a bit of regret she had regarding putting her’s and her husband’s relationship on television:
Mickey was a behind-the-scenes type of guy. He was discovering talent, you know like T-Pain, K. Michelle, Huey, J-Kwon, all these type of people. He never was the television guy. People didn’t know Mickey Wright. They knew MeMpHitz. The television thing brought a different light to him and it made people start to feel like they know him personally and I don’t think he liked that. He just felt like too much of his personal life was out there and that’s understandable ’cause honestly, I really feel like I gave a little bit too much with my relationship. This time around I would never get married on TV again. I would never do any of that because I feel like it’s so many eyes and so many opinions that you have to deal with. I can’t get upset because I put it out there.
Toya talks about coming to terms with her 17-year-old daughter Reginae Carter having a boyfriend, being an independent woman, as well as her relationship with Reginae’s father, rap superstar Lil Wayne. See the full interview below.
By –Liz Cook