Pastor John Reveals The Truth About His Infidelity, Voicemail From Alleged Mistress & Backlash For Gifting Wife Lamborghini
Only four months in, 2019 has been a rocky year for Pastor John and First Lady Aventer Gray. The stars of the OWN Network’s “The Book of John Gray” have gone through several media attacks about John’s brief “emotional affair” and rumors of spending Relentless Church’s money on a $200,000 Lamborghini for Aventer. Days before Saturday’s (4/6/19) season premiere of “The Book of John Gray,” John and Aventer sat down with V-103’s “The Morning Culture” radio show in Atlanta to, again, clear the air on their relationship with their friend, Frank-Ski. They first addressed the controversy with the ladies of “The Real.”
Pastor and First Lady opened up about John’s cheating with their congregation at Relentless Church to illustrate that they, too, make mistakes and need the grace from God that they preach about. From there, rumors spread like wildfire about the nature of John’s affair. They explained the truth once and for all:
“Pastor John Gray: Here’s the truth. The truth is I put my wife in harm’s way. There was someone I knew for many, many years- all the way into my teenaged years…we were helping her.
Aventer Gray: Key word: ‘we.’ Nobody even asked us! They do an interview with anonymous, and that’s what goes crazy!
John: It went from help to there was a place in me that never healed that surfaced. And, by the way, this was almost a year and a half ago. This important because people think it’s now? It’s not. Everything that y’all heard, my wife heard. Voicemails? She heard.
Aventer: I was there for that first voicemail. The one about meeting at the dance studio. We were here together.”
Pastor John explained that unhealed insecurities lead him to an emotional affair, which he insists was not physical:
“Things that happened in my marriage, pre-dated my marriage. The brokenness in me happened when I was four-years-old. I was abused on the front lawn of 806 E. Mitchell. And so, from then ’til now, I’m still trying to find myself, and I’m still trying to figure out who likes me for me. I felt like people from back home knew mw. Long story short, conversations became more involved. And instead of going to my wife, and my God, and my trusted counselors – I went to somebody else…being in the presence of someone, one time – but that does not mean I slept with her. I did not.”
The Grays also make it clear that their Lamborghini purchase had nothing to do with the church’s money.
“Aventer: That car was on the way before we made it to the church.
John: I bought that car last February!…I wasn’t a pastor buying a car. That church had nothing to do with it. They didn’t pay for it. They did not do anything for me to obtain it. Before I became the pastor of that church, I was an author. We also have other shows and streams of income. My wife is who I want to bless as a man. I’m not saying that it makes it understandable. I understand that people that go to church feel a certain way…I said, ‘Before this year is out, I’m going to do whatever I can, work as hard as I can to make my dream come true to bless my wife.”
Weeks before the interview, Pastor John Gray took to Instagram to defend his wife while insisting the post would be the last time he publicly addressed their scandal. He posted this message with a photo of his beautiful First Lady:
The last three months have been the hardest of my life. So many things said about me. Some of it true. Most of it not. I didn’t sleep with anyone. Period. God is my witness. And anyone who I’m accountable to will tell you that when I’m wrong-and I’ve been wrong many times-I’ve admitted, repented and moved forward. And Ive gone to God and faced ME in a way I’ve never done before. And I’m a better man for it. Some seasons simply teach you a lesson and you move on. But this season was different. People wanted blood. And on the spiritual side the devil wanted to mute me. That will never happen. If I never knew the power of The Blood, I do now. And I’ll always preach Jesus Christ as the power of God to eradicate the penalty of sin for those who choose to fall at the foot of the Cross. People have said so many things about me-which is peoples right cuz people have their opinions. But I draw the line when people disrespect my wife. I’ve seen comments about her being a gold-digger (I had negative eleven dollars in the bank when we got married. Everything God did He did when we were together), weak (never seen a stronger woman in my life. Her love, grace and strength have kept this family together) and relationally blind (my wife saw me before I saw the true me and STILL CHOSE ME-and CHOOSES ME EACH DAY-in spite of the healing that’s needed because of places in me that were broken that predate her arrival). So I said all that to say this: if you want to dog me out, call me names, dismiss me as many people have, That’s fine. But keep my wife’s name out of your mouth. She’s been the rock in this family and in my life in spite of me. So try me if you want. But you gon’ honor her. And so am I. And I’ll do so with the rest of my life. Im fair game. My wife and kids are not. My brokenness is my own. Don’t dishonor the one who loved me through it. Ever. I love you Aventer. #LoveYall #leavemyfamilynameoutofyourmouth #AlsoImNotTalkingAboutNoneOfThisAnymore”
Watch Pastor John and Aventer Gray’s entire interview with “The Morning Culture” below.
Written by Miata Shanay