Meghan Markle Suffered A Miscarriage in July: I Knew As I Clutched My Firstborn, I Was Losing My Second
Meghan Markle (39) suffered a miscarriage over the summer. She shared the news with the New York Times, explaining that she suffered the miscarriage in July.
Meghan Markle and Prince Harry (36) welcomed their first child, son Archie, in 2019.
“I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second. Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few.”
She recounts how she realized something in her pregnancy was wrong:
“It was a July morning that began as ordinarily as any other day: Make breakfast. Feed the dogs. Take vitamins. Find that missing sock. Pick up the rogue crayon that rolled under the table. Throw my hair in a ponytail before getting my son from his crib.”
“After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right. I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”
“Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage. Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.”
Meghan Markle adds,
“Some have bravely shared their stories; they have opened the door, knowing that when one person speaks truth, it gives license for all of us to do the same. We have learned that when people ask how any of us are doing, and when they really listen to the answer, with an open heart and mind, the load of grief often becomes lighter — for all of us. In being invited to share our pain, together we take the first steps toward healing.”
We send our thoughts and prayers to all the families that have suffered miscarriages or loss.