with him and you know all types of things or whatever so he can get back strong. It’s a lot for him, that’s on him and choosing to live our marriage publicly, everybody has an opinion, and when somebody has the bigger platform to share their story and the other person don’t, it kind of gets one sided.
And for him- I always get upset when he reacts out of anger on social media because I know that’s not really him and it’s coming from a bitter, angry place because the world has turned him into that person. But you know, constantly accusing him of doing this and doing that and he’s constantly struggling to get back to what he had.
On when the dynamics of their relationship started to change:
Things started changing when all of this stuff started happening. And it was a psychiatrist – my bad, I said a counselor – it was a psychiatrist that he goes and talks to about his situation.
And as far as things changing with me being a bread winner all of that plays a role but mainly it’s because of his whole situation and everything he’s going through.
My husband is a very smart guy. A lot of the things I do, he helps me with. He brings a lot of the deals to the table, he’s not just a guy that sit around and want to live off you. He knows how to get money and make money so I wouldn’t say that he don’t bring nothing to the table because he’s very smart and knows how to make money.
But I think because he’s blackballed in the industry that he loves, he dibble and dabbles into different things. But I don’t think [money] caused that issue because it wasn’t about money at all. It was about him getting his identity back because every time he steps outside- ‘You a woman beater. I don’t like,’ and this and that. ‘Oh, Wayne taking care of him.’ I guess that kind of drove him crazy because he’s like ‘I had my own sh*t before I even met you.” I was a VP at a label, doing my own thing.. but he started blaming me for stuff and it’s like ‘It’s not my fault what happened with you and your ex.’
That was going on before me. That’s was caused you to be [blackballed]. So I guess he feels like the lawsuit and all that caused him to be blackballed from his industry and whole stealing money and beating and all that because now you can’t go to a label and work with that type of stuff on your record. See what I’m saying?
On Memphitz being blackballed from the industry and blaming her for it:
So, he felt like, it was my fault that he didn’t go on the [Love and Hip Hop ATL] and he had the opportunity to defend himself…. that route caused him to get blackballed in the industry. And it’s kind of like he blames me for that. And I have to deal with that everyday, you know?
But I think because he’s blackballed in the industry that he loves… I guess that kind of drove him crazy because he’s like ‘I had my own sh*t before I even met you.” I was a VP at a label, doing my own thing but he started blaming me for stuff and it’s like, ‘It’s not my fault what happened with you and your ex.’
Advice for women fighting for their own marriage:
I mean, let me go back- my advice to women on the situation- I feel like you shouldn’t give up on your marriage especially if there is no infidelity issues. The baby whole- the whole him having a baby on me thing- that’s not true- the whole issue with my husband and I is what’s going on in his life with this whole lawsuit thing and him blaming me for not letting him go defend himself. And I don’t like that at all. And I don’t agree with that being a better reason to not want to work on your marriage, you know, the way you looking at the world and you want your identity back, you should work on that with your wife. If that’s [separation] is what you want, that’s what you want. I’m just going to continue to pray and hope that maybe we can smooth things over and things can work out and this lawsuit thing whatever happens however it happens. But I don’t feel like that should be a reason why you should give up on your marriage.
I feel like you should fight for your marriage. And be there for your husband especially when he is going through something mentally, and it’s taking a mental toll on him, you don’t just walk out of a man’s life like that, when he’s at his lowest point in his life, you’re like – I’m out of here. That is a sign of a weak woman, to me. I wouldn’t want him to leave me if I’m broken. If I’m at the lowest point of my life and I don’t have anybody, and I have to deal with all these people saying different stuff and defaming my name, my character, and tearing me down, everywhere I go social media, that’s a whole lot for anyone to deal with. You lost your career, your character is assassinated and it’s like you’re losing your mind. So as a woman and a wife that made a commitment to be here for better or for worse, I feel like, I’m doing my part.?But if this is not what you want- that is why I allowed him to go and we’re separated. If you feel like you have to separate from me to get your life and your identity back, I’m just going to stay over here and work on me and my daughter and my career and get my life in order and I’m here if you need me.
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